Special education
The importance of excellent special education support staff and remembering Anna Pitts
In terms of public school, the most important person in the day-to-day life of Quincy and students like Quincy with intensive special needs is their aide. The aides are the people that do the daily care-giving and who develop very complex relationships with our children. Quincy has had aides in the past that have become some of my closest and most trusted friends. They are the voices of our children when we are away, the learn to communicate, feed, change and care for our children as well as we do. The importance of a good special ed aide cannot be measured.
The flip side of that, of course, is how damaging a poor aide can be. I have been lucky enough to avoid such a situation, but have heard terrible stories from other parents about how awful a poorly trained aide can be. Having a person in such a position who is not prepared or does not have the heart for the job can set our children back years. I cross my fingers (and do a ton of advocating) at the start of every school year to make sure Quincy doesn’t get put in a situation like that.
This week our school district lost an exceptional special ed aide unexpectedly and very tragically. I did not know Anna Pitts personally, but I have seen her working with students like Quincy, I have spoken to parents who were lucky enough to have her work with their children, and I have talked with teachers for whom Anna worked and everyone raved about her. She was a genuinely caring woman who loved her job and the students she worked with. The impact of her loss throughout the school district has been overwhelming. She will never be replaced. She touched so many lives and brought much joy to her work.
My heart goes out to Anna’s family and my dear friend Amber who is Anna’s daughter and an extraordinary advocate for children with disabilities in her own right. There are no words to express how deeply felt your loss is to all of us.
School districts need to offer more to support the families of their special education students
I used to work for an organization in the Mat-Su Valley that helped families deal with all the complexities of educating a child with special needs. Unfortunately that little agency, a homegrown non-profit with a lot of vision but little direction or leadership, really couldn’t sustain itself and I have moved on. But the need for families to have help and assistance has not…that is the sad thing. I continue to be contacted regularly by parents who are seeking information, resources, support and guidance. I wonder why this can’t be provided by the school district itself?
How great would it be if someone from your school district contacted you on a semi-regular basis to just check in? To ask what is working and what isn’t? To see what resources you might need or whether or not you need some support? I find that once our children are in their classrooms and we, their parents, aren’t making a fuss about one issue or another the District is more than happy to leave us alone. And yet, I’m not sure that is what we really want. I would love the opportunity to share my feedback, to ask questions in a forum less formal than that of an IEP, and to provide praise and as well as concerns.
I think our District needs a parent liaison. Not an advocate, but a liaison who shows the human side of the educational process. Who shows that the District cares about their students and their families. I believe most educators (teachers, administrators, support specialists) absolutely do care, but they simply do not have enough time to do any more than is required for their classrooms. It is simply too much to ask of them and the answer is not to add yet another task to their already overflowing plates. In the grand scheme of a school district budget, particularly for special education, this would not be a big expense and the reward for having families become a part of the process instead of feeling alone and frustrated would be immense.
If you know of a District that has a person or department who acts in this capacity, I would love to know more about it. I would love to know about the types of experiences others have had navigating the complicated waters of special education. Please share your experiences with all of us. I am hopeful to hear something, but an expecting silence, because I suspect most districts operate they same way ours does, which isn’t bad, but could always be better.
Taking time to thank those who have worked so hard with our disabled daughter
As my regular readers know we have kept Quincy with her elementary special education team much longer than normal. We started our experience with school slowly, initially taking her for short periods of time just to receive therapy services. It was scary for us to think about leaving her with strangers for six hours a day and we needed to ease our way into it. As it turned out the professionals at Larson Elementary have had an extraordinary impact on Quincy life and ours, in ways they probably will never fully understand.
It seems like just yesterday that I clutched my frail five-year old daughter and forced myself to walk into an unfamiliar school to begin the process of integrating her into public education. Quincy is now 14 and I am again facing the same fears as I lay the groundwork for her to start high school.
Yesterday my husband arranged to speak to the staff and faculty at Larson Elementary during their staff meeting to thank them, personally, for taking such wonderful care of our daughter. It was important for us to do this in a private, personal forum where we could take the time to individually recognize those teachers who have had an impact on us and the lives of each of our children. Teachers have a rather thankless job…they take a great deal of criticism and are rarely thanked for their efforts. Most teachers do their jobs because they love educating children. I know that because in a past lifetime I was a teacher and my husband still is. It is a difficult, complicated, rewarding profession and we believe it is important to express our sincere appreciation to everyone who opened their classrooms and their hearts to Quincy.
We purchased an apple tree as a gift to the school from Quincy. It’s delicate, pink blossoms are a perfect reminder to all of Quincy’s unique blend of beauty, fragility, and strength. I hope they plant the tree somewhere where it will thrive and grow and mature and serve as a reminder to those who work at Larson Elementary just how much they touched our lives.
Quincy’s journey through public education has not been without it’s ups and downs, but it is most marked by an impressive group of people who have spent countless hours celebrating her successes and helping us overcome any obstacles that we faced. I don’t want to sugarcoat our experience, because it has been a lot of work on our part as well as that of the District. And it has required constant advocacy and action. But right now is the time to acknowledge everyone who has done their part to make Quincy’s life a happy place. Battles and stresses and worries will always be around the corner, but this is a milestone in Quincy’s to share with so many wonderful people. This is a time to celebrate!
Extended School Year (ESY) Programs for special education students
One of my regular readers brought up the subject of summer school the other day. It occurred to me that this is an excellent topic to discuss. Our school District offers a six-week Extended School Year (ESY) for special education students who qualify. In our District, the Individual Education Plan (IEP) can state that ESY services are required for one of three reasons; Emerging Skills, Regression Recoupment, and Self-Sufficiency.
For Quincy we usually qualify under Regression Recoupment. If there is a lengthy delay in her physical therapy or occupational therapy services, Quincy will definitely lose valuable skills. So, it’s important for her to have a continuity with her services and this is what ESY provides.
Our ESY session is three days a week, for six weeks. It is divided into a morning and an afternoon session, so the kids are really only in school for about 2.5 hours, three days a week. But, it’s enough time for her therapists to continue to build on her critical skills. Transportation to and from school is also available. The ESY program does not run in each school, but instead at a central location. Luckily for us it is a location quite close to our home (Finger Lake Elementary) and in the past we have provided our own transportation.
Our last day of regular school is May 22, so for us ESY is quickly approaching. I encourage anyone with a child who is receiving special education services through an IEP to be aware of the ESY programs and inquire as to your own child’s eligibility.
The transition to high school…continuing the process.
The weather has turned warm and sunny, the snow has melted, and the sounds of spring are all around us. This also marks the last couple weeks of the school for the kids in the Mat-Su Borough School District. They finish up on May 22, so we are in full swing with end of the year activities. And this includes putting together the pieces of Quincy’s transition to high school for next year.
This is still an emotionally difficult process, but Rob and I trudge through it with as much optimism as we can muster. After all, this is a very exciting time for Quincy. Remember when you were facing your freshman year in high school? This is a very big deal. But, for her parents it is tough. It is tough to know we will be turning her over to a whole new team, new teacher, new support staff, new everything.
The District is doing a pretty good job of easing into the process. I have met Quincy’s teacher and she has been able to spend a couple days observing Quincy’s current team and classroom environment. That is valuable time, as she is able to see for herself what kind of care Quincy requires. Tomorrow a support staff person who will be working with Quincy next year will begin her first of several (I hope) observations as well. It’s difficult to do too much cross-training at the end of the year because teachers and support staff really don’t commit to where they will be working often until late summer. So, it’s pretty extraordinary for us to have these two folks already putting time in getting to know Quincy.
Next week I will meet the principal of Quincy’s new school and discuss our goals and expectations. Again, it’s positive to see so many people take the time to get to know Quincy and her needs as well as helping us get comfortable with her new program. I am grateful to the District for working so hard to make this the smoothest possible experience for Quincy.
And, really, that is what it should be about. It’s not about making the parents feel better, it’s not about making the staff’s life easier, it’s not about other students…it’s about what is best for Quincy. Sometimes it’s easy to lose that focus…the child’s needs get lost among everyone else’s needs. But I think we are doing a good job of keeping everyone centered on Q.
So, that’s my transition update for now. I am pleased with the progress so far. We will be able to take advantage of summer session to do continued training. I am hopeful that next August brings an easy start to a new program…and that Quincy’s only worry is what to wear on the first day of school.
Special education should be quality education!
Every day people bundle up their children and send them off to school. For the most part they trust that their children are getting an appropriate education. Although parents certainly have their issues…teachers they don’t like, curriculum they don’t understand, discipline they view as unfair…for the most part they know that every day their child will be taught and, hopefully, challenged. I would argue that in order for your child to get the best possible education you must be an active, engaged parent. But even if you chose to do almost nothing you could still expect your child will be given an opportunity to learn.
It’s unfortunate that this does not always ring true for children with special needs. For whatever reason most school districts struggle to provide the type of educational experience our children deserve. I have heard all the excuses….the main ones being budget issues and staffing shortages. I used to be more understanding and sympathetic but as Quincy gets older I am simply unwilling to accept these excuses.
We should be able to send our children to school and know they will be safe, they will be challenged and they will be treated with respect and dignity. We should not have to feel the need to check on them regularly. We should not have to take our time to educate the staff and administrators about our children’s needs. We should not worry about what our next battle will be. Our children should look forward to school as much as regular ed kids. Our children should have fun and feel safe and have their minds filled with new and wondrous experiences.
It’s unfortunate for us that Quincy doesn’t have a lot to look forward to when she starts high school next year. I am stressed about this….I am tired of fighting the system. I want to be able to enroll her in school and be excited about what is to come, but that just isn’t the case. Why can’t school districts do a better job with the resources that they have? Why do I still have to listen to the age-old excuses of lack of funding or qualified staff? What am I supposed to do when acceptable options just aren’t available?
Parents raising children with special needs have too many issues to deal with. After a while we get tired. It would be nice if just one thing in life could be easy and it makes sense that it should be school. But it’s not and it will take an enormous effort on my part to make sure that it is. Looks like I am going to be tired for a long, long time to come…
What school transition should mean
Yesterday we met with Quincy’s IEP team to discuss her transition from elementary school to high school. This is a difficult process for children and their families because it means a whole new school, new staff, new schedule…this is scary for all children, but particularly scary for children who have developmental disabilities. What I was struck by during our meeting, is how thefolks from the school administrations seemed interested in making the transition process smooth for their staff and for Rob and I. Transistion should not be so much about making new staff members comfortable or even parents, as much as it should be about Quincy. This is her experience and everything that can possibly be done to make her feel safe and comfortable is what the focus should be. Don’t get me wrong, these are good people with good intentions. But, they just don’t seem to “get it”…they just don’t seem to be able to wrap their brains around what should be done for Quincy. Rob and I do our best to articulate this, but so often you feel as if the message is lost in a world of rules, regulations, goals and objectives, etc… The first day of high school for Quincy should be exciting and new and safe and as stress-free as possible. She should be familiar with the building, equipment and adaptive supplies should be available and ready for her to use, there should be trained staff to greet her who know who she is and what she can and cannot do. I do not expect this to be a stress-free experience, but it should be one that at least provides her a feeling of safety and security as she learns to adapt to a new environment with new people. Transition is not about my comfort…I am never comfortable trusting Quincy’s care to other people, no matter how well-qualified they may be. Parent’s raising children who are fully dependent on others for all their needs will never be comfortable sharing that responsibility with anyone else. What we need is for our children to be comfortable with other’s doing their care-giving. That is a very, very big difference and one that teachers and administrators should do a better job of trying to understand.
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